IVF/DONOR EGG SURROGACY
In Vitro Fertilization, or IVF, is an option by which an embryo is created by combining an egg and sperm in a laboratory dish. If the egg is successfully fertilized, it is transferred to a surrogate’s uterus. The egg can be the surrogate’s own or the egg of another woman, in which case the surrogate is called a gestational carrier.
Couples may receive donated sperm through fertility clinics. Donors are screened for certain diseases and genetic disorders.
Same-sex couples can legally adopt in Oregon, and if the couple is registered as a domestic partnership, the couple can adopt jointly. Adoption is a lifelong commitment. Most adoptive children are school-aged and have special needs related to abuse or neglect they’ve experienced.
Children whose families cannot provide for them are sometimes placed in foster care through the Department of Human Services. Foster care situations are temporary but can become long term or lead to adoption. People of any sexual orientation can be foster parents.
Co-parenting is typically an arrangement between a gay man and a lesbian woman who team up to parent a child together, often while not living in the same home. The term is also used to describe the relationship between two separated or divorced parents attempting to raise a child.
PARENTING GROUPS and RESOURCES
DADDIES & PAPAS
3rd Saturdays, 10 a.m. at Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi AveDaddies and Papas is a group for gay, bisexual and transgender men raising young children. Topics range from the best way to deal with biting to what to say when schoolmates tease children about having two fathers. firstname.lastname@example.org
Parenting/Pregnant Lesbians of Portland is a group of lesbian moms and their families that gathers monthly. The group aims to provide a place where families can get support on issues unique to lesbian parents. The group is also a resource for lesbian couples who are thinking about having a child. ploppdx.wordpress.com or email@example.com
4th Saturdays, 10 a.m. at Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi AveQueer Parents of Portland is for all queer parents no matter the gender or family structure. This group embraces transgender parents, polyamorous parents and single parents, among others. Children are welcome. QPoP has a group on Facebook.
Queers United In Parenting PDX is a web-based Google group for queer parents. It’s billed as “an open forum for queers of all stripes from Hip Mamas to TransParents to Rad Dads to discuss queer parenting issues, exchange stories, resources, and encouragement, and arrange meet-ups and gatherings.” Find it on Google Groups.
STORY TIME WITH MARIA
2nd Saturdays, 9:30 a.m. at Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi Ave.Live reading for children age 0-5 years and their families. Librarian Maria Lowe reads stories and adapts songs and movement activities for the ages and attention spans of the children attending. pdxqcenter.org/ongoing-events/storytime-with-maria/
LGBTQ ADOPTIVE PARENT SUPPORT GROUP
3rd Tuesdays, 6 p.m. at Q Center, 4115 N Mississippi AveAdoption Mosaic hosts a free monthly parenting support group. This group is open to prospective and current LGBTQ adoptive parents. The group offers the support, information and tools necessary to nurture healthy LGBTQ families. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org or visit adoptionmosaic.org.
One of the leading surrogacy centers working with LGBT community members is right here in Portland. nwsurrogacycenter.com
OREGON REPRODUCTIVE MEDICINE
A leader for LGBT parents starting or growing their families, ORM welcomes gay patients from around the world. IUI/IVF & DE/IVF.OregonReproductiveMedicine.com
OPEN ADOPTION & FAMILY SERVIES (OAFS)
No other adoption agency in the country places more infants with gay and lesbian parents than OAFS. openadopt.org
NORTHWEST ADOPTION EXCHANGE
No better way to connect families with waiting foster children in the Northwest. nwae.org
STATE OF OREGON FOSTER CARE
There is always a need for quality foster parents. Thousands of children await good homes. oregon.gov/DHS/children/fostercare
Founded by the same attorney who founded OAFS, they work with gay and lesbian clients from around the country in adoption.adoptionnorthwest.com
REDDEN & FINDLING LLP
This firm is skilled in adoption facilitiation and legal work and LGBT supporters. reddenfindling.com
The information provided here is purely for education and is not intended as a recommendation for adults or children. Parents and those thinking of parenting should seek out trusted resources, including personal and professional referral sources, before proceeding.
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